Based on 107 community votes, the most popular answer to “Should I Honor My Dad's Wish to Stop Dialysis?” is “Support my dad's decision to stop” — chosen by 16% of voters.
Category: health • Theme: Personal Autonomy vs Family Hope
I never thought I’d be in this position. My dad has been on dialysis for years now, and he’s always tried to keep his spirits up, even on the worst days. But last week, after another grueling treatment left him weak and shaking, he pulled me aside and quietly said he can’t do it anymore—he just wants to stop. He was so clear, his eyes so tired. The doctors said he could stop if he wants, but that the outcome is certain. My mom and my older brother are begging me to help them convince him to keep going, insisting he just needs more support, more encouragement. They can’t imagine letting him go, and I love him just as much, but seeing his pain breaks me. I feel pulled apart between respecting his wish and being the ‘bad daughter’ who gives up. Every day, my family argues—sometimes in front of him—about what the right thing is. He just looks at me, silently, like he’s counting on me to hear him. If we go along with him, I fear the regret and blame. If I push him to keep fighting, am I forcing him to suffer for my own sake? My heart hurts every night, knowing his time is limited no matter what. This decision feels too big for one person, but everyone keeps looking to me. I want to do what’s right by my dad, but I don’t even know what that is anymore. What would YOU do?
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